I was flicking through TV channels after coming from work today and one of the major news was about Japans Daiichi buying majority stake in Ranbaxy. As i understand this is the first major Indian MNC being sold. Over dinner I shared this news with my Grand Mom and she was a bit shocked. For her it was like selling countrys pride. How can one sell itself to a foreigner etc...
I just jocked to her that its difficult to run enterprises on emotions , may be if some day , some one pays me good for LNM I might sale it. But then this thought itself was a bit shivery though I mentioned this casually to her. I felt emotional about my ownership in the company and how I have worked hard to take it where it is today. Also I thought that My Grand mom knew nothing of both the companies or whats good or bad about this deal but her emotional reaction was some thing which she might have percieved out of her experiences or studies. I believe Emotions does not allow you to make a decision based on facts and logic.Emotions can be so intense that it becomes hard to think objectively about things. When one can't think objectively, then proper judgement can not be used. I have lot of fights with my teenager son over various issues. I believe reason for most of this is emotional as I love him very much and my emotions take away my logic. Emotion is about feelings.Emotions interfere with thinking. Anger, fear, hatred, love, all cause behavior that follow people's feelings rather than their thinking. We Indians are emotional about every thing. We forget the practical aspects and reasons in front of our emotions. In the newspapers we read every day about politicians making optimum use of our emotional quotient for there gains wether the present Gujjar agitation in Rajasthan or Gorkhaland issue in Darjeeling. I am still unable to understand how emotional we get into issues that causes us to kill people , destroy public and private properties.
I believe Life is a emotional rollercoaster. Typically the more emotional we are for something the more memorable it will be. A bad vacation does not mean holidays are bad. Our emotions becomes important when weighing the options and ultimately making a decision. The better we understand our emotions (and what that emotion stems from) the better decisions we will make. Our emotions are what drives us. It what causes us to take actions. Emotions effect relations. Very often we respond to other people's behaviors based on how we feel about ourselves. If we are insecure or uncertain about ourselves we are much more likely to have a negative emotional response to somebody's benign comments or actions. I think we should think before we act and not act before we think. We carry our emotions too far. We should have a good balance between being emotional and being rational.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
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Emotion itself is not our problem.It is emotion that joint family system still exists here.It is emotion that we are still so caring towards our guardians and children same time.It is emotion that rate of divorce is still within limit.It is emotion that we keep connected to our place and people of origin.At personal level it is emotion that we want to continue with oue house establishment at Purulia and still want to reconnect with Deshnok and Bikaner and even Janglu and Jaisalmer.But we must know emotion management too.We must not get carried away with emotions only,which we wrongfully do at times.A discipline way has to be found while giving due importance to our emotion.An emotion less life has no meaning.Otherwise life will be as practical as business. And by no means life should be treated as business or only personal profit making centre. Life will be life less without emotions.
I agree with both aspects here - the problem and the solution.
Ofcourse, emotional bonding is like a life-long umbilical cord which keeps us connected to people who are dear to us. It provides us support, strength, guidance, sense of security and belongingness. In Indian context, It plays a very significant role in shaping our personality, behavior, attitude and perspective.
The challenge lies in emotion management and it's a BIG one, primarily because it's not one way or two way challenge but multiple way challenge. It's like being connected with multiple umbilical cords to dear ones and ofcourse entwined and entangled with cross connectivity. Parallel to emotional bonding, runs the cord of respect and expectations, which makes the challenge of emotion management an almost impossible task.
There are also significant joys of these three parallel cords that run in our system of living. But lack of emotion and expectation management lead to certain displeasures and that often results in missing out the pleasures of same cords.
I feel, along side emotion, expectation and respect - we also need to build and practice open communication and healthy sharing of opinion/thoughts. The comfort level of sharing our passion, preference, dreams, believes, opinion etc. so others around us learn to understand, respect, adapt and accommodate as the relationship grows. This will lead to healthier relationships where are not weighed down under emotion, expectation and respectfulness. This will save us from extreme situations, where we either continuously swallow frustration/displeasure within OR end up expressing with anger and bitterness, leaving its ripple effect on relationships.
I do agree that we should strike proper balance bet'n being emotional and being rational. In personal life "Emotions" should overweigh "Rationality" and in commercial life "Rationality" should overweigh "Emotions". In mathematical terms E + R should be 100% and in no event either of them should be 0%
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